2. You give more than you get.
You call, text and email him more than he contacts you. You concoct ways to be with him; you invite him parties and cook dinner for him. You keep his favorite beer or liquor on hand. You give him gifts, mail him cute cards or send flowers to his home or office (yes, women to this!).
You think being nice and accommodating will make him appreciate and love you, but you don’t get what you were hoping for in return.
Solution: A healthy relationship needs a balance of “give and take.” When you give too much, you appear desperate for a relationship. Pay attention to your wants and needs and don’t be afraid to express your desires or your concerns.
If you cook dinner, it’s his turn to take you out to a restaurant. If you call and leave him a message or you text him, wait until he contacts you. If he doesn’t call you right away, don’t assume there is something wrong. He could be busy or waiting for a reason (or the right time) to call. But if he doesn’t call at all, you need to accept the cold fact that he’s just not into you.
Until you’re a solid couple, save the gifts for his birthday, Valentine’s Day and Christmas. Ditch the syrupy greeting cards and ask him to pick a nice bottle of wine up before coming to your house. If you are indeed giving more than you receive, you are with the wrong guy.
Discussion about this post