Here’s what “the chase” really is.
As Millionaire Matchmaker Patty Stanger says, “the penis does the picking.”
If a man isn’t physically attracted to you, he won’t feel any real drive to get more of your attention.
You might have wonderful conversations that last hours. You might have sex. You might see “real potential” in him and fall head over heels.
Unfortunately, if he doesn’t find you sexually attractive, the relationship will never progress beyond the friends-with-benefits zone.
The second very powerful and less understood part of this equation is that masculine energy is most happy when it’s achieving something.
Achievement in relationships resides in the masculine realm of men. Making a woman happy is an achievement. So is proposing and “bringing home the bacon.”
In the early stages of dating, masculine achievement looks like the process of getting you to agree to little things that indicate you’re interested. Simple things like, “getting a number,” then “getting a woman to text/call back,” then “she agreed to a date” are all achievements.
This is why sometimes dudes high-five each other after getting women’s numbers at bars. In the smallest way possible, they’ve won at something.
Personally, I’ve never had a contest with my girlfriends to see how many dude’s numbers we can round up over the course of an evening. I’m willing to bet you haven’t either.
Those very small, achievements embody “the chase.” Now, why is it a bad idea to at least smooth the path for a man you really like?
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