2. You’re uncomfortable with commitment.
Is your pattern to sabotage a relationship right at the moment it starts inching toward a commitment? Do you panic when someone you’re dating wants to talk about their feelings for you?
Do you get hung up on “nitpicky”, superficial qualities (like they are too tall, not educated enough, or have brown hair instead of blond) in dates that prevent you from moving forward with a relationship?
You may have a tendency to feel really uncomfortable with intimacy and value your independence.
This is a possible sign of an avoidant attachment system that can block your efforts at close relationships. It means that your brain is wired to avoid intimacy, even if you have an idea that you want commitment.
It’s challenging, but can be remedied, if you’re committed to gaining awareness and working through its limitations.
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