3. Compensation is fun!
He’s been around other dudes in locker rooms and such, so he knows he’s packing less than a punch. Allow him to feel more capable in other departments.
Focus on other activities, such as oral sex, and advise him to get really good at it. Give and receive an erotic massage, that’ll get your engines revving. You can also employ the use of his dexterous fingers.
Clue him in on some quick tips to finger mastery, brought to you by yours truly …
- Be gentle. He’s used to manhandling his member. You’re not the same way. The clit is uber-sensitive. Think of it as a teensy tiny penis. Did you know women have more nerve bundles in their clit than men have in their penis? Delicate touching is preferred unless you are directed otherwise.
- Find a comfortable position like sitting or laying down side by side. He can access your vulva more readily from this positioning and also reach inside you, if directed. You can also kiss when you are side by side. The most awkward position is sitting in between your legs. Just don’t do it.
- Never touch a dry clit or enter a dry vagina with a dry finger. Wet is best. Just like he masturbates with some kind of lubricant, women need it too. Have him lick his finger or use a little bit of artificial lubricant.
- Don’t rush things. If you’ve gotten good and juiced up, he can enter your vagina with his fingers, but take it at a comfortable pace. Remember all I’ve taught you and all that you’ve learned through experience — a dry finger entering a dry vagina is downright unpleasant. The more he stimulates the rest of your body, the more he kisses you and stimulates your clit, the more fun you will have in the penetration department.
- Keep in mind, the outer third of the vagina has the most abundant nerve endings. He doesn’t need to go deep to stimulate you. He should start with the fingertip, then have him slowly work his way inside you. Some women like thrusting in and out, some can’t stand it. Some like cervical stimulation, some can’t stand it. Tell him what you like and let him learn.
As he works his magic on you, whisper in his ear about how hot he is and how much you want his package, even if it’s a trifle disappointing.
A little dirty talk never hurt anyone.
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