Alpha males do NOT appreciate being chased, no matter how much gender equality exists elsewhere in their lives.
It goes against the grain of their alpha male instincts to take charge, make things happen and dominate their world. Anything else is unacceptable since it makes him feel less masculine.
Occasionally, if you ask a man out and he thinks seeing you again is a good idea, he’ll take over pursuit and ask for the second date. If this happens, let him take charge from that point on, because this is the only shot you have of dating him and building a relationship.
If you only want a fling or something casual, then asking a man out is fine, because you aren’t hoping for anything long-term. So it doesn’t matter who pursues whom.
But if you’re looking for love, my best dating advice is to let men lead and do the asking.
Most importantly, I want you to realize that if he’s not asking you out, it’s because HE DOESN’T WANT TO.
Otherwise he would. Yes, it is that simple.
A man gets invested in a woman when he has to win her over. That’s the purpose of the chase, which is why dating experts implore you not to drop everything for a man or be too available. A little tension makes you more of a challenge and more appealing. It stimulates his hunter instincts, hearkening back to the caveman.
Don’t take the fun out of his chase!
When you ask him out or are too available or enthusiastic, you eliminate the challenge and the fun of the chase. Men seek experiences in which they can feel victorious.
Where’s the possible victory for him if you ask him out?
Where’s the thrill if you take over pursuit?
None of that supports his masculine identity. Instead, it sets up a competitive situation — which will NEVER LEAD TO ROMANCE.
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