3. Because you don’t know everything.
Another big problem with making out as adults is the pervasive sense of “been there, done that.”
“Why are we going to spend a bunch of time kissing? We’ve been kissing each other for years!”
That’s an unfortunate assumption on our part — that kissing has nothing “new” to offer us. It’s also an odd argument, because orgasms haven’t changed significantly over the past century and yet we still pursue those with unrivaled vigor.
The key is remembering that, like with orgasms, most of the fun is the journey, not the destination.
Kissing might feel like a well-worn path to some adults, but that just means you need to work harder to stay in the moment. Stop thinking about what comes next, what comes after, or what you need to do tomorrow.
Just allow yourself to be there, in the present, enjoying the intimacy of kissing for what it is. Because, once you start doing that, kissing stops being a vanilla appetizer and you start rediscovering all of the sensations and flavors that drove you so mad when you were young. If you open yourself to the idea that kissing can feel new again, it will. You’ll be surprised.
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