2. Share your hopes for your relationship.
It’s tempting when you’re in a relationship that is going well to think about the long term.
And why not? The future, when you’ve found a person you want to share it with, can be so exciting to contemplate.
But for him, it might be overwhelming.
Instead of peppering him with questions like “do you ever want to get married?” “to you want to have kids?” “where do you want to live?” share your hopes for your relationship.
“I am so hopeful that our relationship will keep growing,” is much nicer and easier to hear than “all my friends are getting married, what’s your timeline?”
Sharing your hopes without putting pressure on him lets him know that there is no expectation for him to spill, but that if he wants to open up, you’ll be happy to receive what he has to say.
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