5. There is no agreement to be exclusive.
If you have not had a specific talk about being exclusive, DO NOT ASSUME the relationship is exclusive. Even if you have had the talk, do his actions match his words? If not, refer to his actions; they speak louder than words.
6. He’s not ready for a relationship.
If he indicates that he’s not in a place to have a serious relationship for any reason, take him at his word. This is the one instance in which words matter more than actions.
DO NOT read into his actions that he really wants a relationship with you when he has said he does not. There are many reasons a man may not be ready to have a relationship. Two common reasons are:
- He does not want to be tied down geographically. Maybe he is anticipating a job change or planning to go to graduate school and he wants to maintain the flexibility to move for his career.
- It may be that he has just gotten out of a serious relationship and needs a break.
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