If something like that happened now, I would walk away almost immediately with minimal struggle. As cliché as it is, you live, and you learn. My boundaries are so strong now. I wouldn’t even think about sleeping in the same bed as Gil anymore. Inappropriate is inappropriate.
I don’t interact with exes, not even on social media. And I have VERY few close guy friends that are straight. Essentially, I operate on zero tolerance with regard to inappropriateness, weirdness, or other blurry energy from the opposite sex. And when it comes to men — when there are other women in the picture and I feel even an iota of warning in the pit of my stomach — now I listen to it.
My intuition is what guides me, regardless of what words are exchanged, what fake smiles are displayed, what the situation seems like to my rational mind. Thus far, I have always ended up being right — any woman who raised my red flag antennae eventually proved the underlying motivation behind the innocent guise of “friendship.”
At the end of the day, it’s not about never interacting with the opposite sex, but having very clear boundaries. Such is life. Lesson learned. Past grievances forgiven. And now, only gratitude remains.
(*Obviously these are not their real names, I’m not that mean.)
Here I am with Gil. Just friends, and I actually mean it.
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