2. Stop having preferences that don’t matter
I was once dating a really great woman. Then I found out she listened to Nickelback. I nearly instantly lost my attraction to her. The common defense for this idiocy is “you can’t control what you’re attracted to,” but now I realize that — in many cases — this is an excuse that absolves you from examining what your preferences say about you. It’s an invitation to extend your prejudices about that one thing, so that they round out your entire perception of that person.
So, he likes country music. So, she used to smoke cigarettes. So, he’s merely half-a-foot taller than you. And now you won’t date that person. That’s a deal-breaker. Is that written in your DNA, or is it the effect upon your own self-perception — or the perception of your friends — that keeps you swiping again and again?
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